Parties who are facing divorce proceedings suffer much emotional trauma. What began as a marriage made in heaven has now turned into a nightmare with separation inevitable and usually with feelings of anger at the other spouse. Depression is not uncommon. It is widely acknowledged that divorces are one of the highest causes of depression.
There are no perfect marriages. A marriage is dependant on many factors and sometimes these factors may just be beyond our control. Some marriages work but some don’t and they end up in the statistics of failed marriages. However, it is important to bear in mind that a divorce is not the end of the world and that life still goes on and how you live your life thereafter makes a whole world of difference in how you can deal with the fact that you are divorced.
In a divorce, there is no party who is totally right and no party who is wholly wrong. Just because you are entering into a divorce does not mean that you are a bad or inadequate person. It just means that the relationship has broken down due to differences and sometimes, this could be personality differences which are difficult to change.
Keeping a positive mind is necessary during a divorce. You know very well what has happened and if there are false allegations against you, by all means, defend yourself so that the truth would be uncovered. It is pointless being bitter at the other spouse for bitterness only hurts you further but does nothing to the other.
Surround yourself in the company of friends and relatives for support. Invest time in people who care for you and who are able to offer a listening ear. Seek the counsel of professional counselors or religious leaders for emotional support. Where available and in belief, seek the solace of God to find peace and meaning to life and why divorce became inevitable. Pour out your emotions to those who are willing to listen so that you will feel better but take care not to abuse this privilege. In pouring out your emotions, learn to pick yourself up from there and move on. Once the divorce is over, move on with your life. Your other spouse would not be there to help you to do so, that’s for sure. You have nothing to prove to anyone and nobody needs to prove anything to you. The world will still turn and life will still go on. Are you not willing to?